When I was younger I was taught that there were four different kinds of love. God’s love, the love of family, the love of friendship, and the love of relationships, or husband and wife love as they use to say when I was a kid. I rank them from best to worse in that same order too. I mean because God’s Love, if you actually believe it exists is completely unconditional, so no matter what you do, God will always love you. Family love is the second strongest, you know there is not much conditionality to family love. You usually just except everyone for who they are because you have to. Friendship love would be the second weakest, because you get to choose your friends, you get to choose who are the ones that you love. After you let someone into that love, if they mess it up, as long as they realize what they have done wrong, generally speaking most friends are willing to forgive and forget… if they actually love that friend. There are no time limits to friendship love. Relationship love is on some other stuff though. Weakness, pure weakness. You make a wrong move in a relationship, you make a bad decision, you go off and do something that you shouldn’t have, or should have been smart enough to not do… then there is none of that prodigal son bs. No one is happy that you fond your way home. They’ve moved on. They don’t love you anymore, they gave their love on the condition that you wouldn’t mess it up, and once you do… no more love. Oh, there are some people who are willing to forgive and forget in this format of love as they do in friendship, but it is part of our societal structure to ridicule these people. Make fun of these people for trying to insert unconditional love into their relationships, as if they are the weak ones. So everyone thinks they’re somehow being stronger by offering up conditional love. Which is absolutely ridiculous, because anyone can love conditionally, but only the strongest can offer up unconditional love. That’s not to say that you don’t have to sometimes end relationships with people you love, but the key point there is it is someone you love, not someone you loved conditionally. Here’s a story for you:
Boy meets girl. Boy and girl fall in love. Its boy’s first time and he starts feeling pain that he has never felt before because of girl. Boy leaves girl. Boy realizes pain without girl is infinitely worse than pain with girl, and comes back because he never stopped loving the girl. Girl says her love was given on the condition that boy would never leave, therefore she doesn’t love him anymore, and all attempts to rekindle love are too little, too late. Boy discovers that this kind of love… is too conditional, too weak.
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